Worksheet: Setting Boundaries from a Place of Love
A Loving Boundaries worksheet with practical steps for navigating relationships while honouring each of our sovereignty. Blessings, Michelle x
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Michelle x
Welcome to the Loving Boundaries Worksheet
Gatherings with family and the holiday season particularly can raise many emotions and triggers. Once we remember these are for our growth and an invitation to create something better leads us to working with healthy boundaries. This is key to maintaining peace, balance, and emotional well-being - when we are ready.
Use this worksheet to help you reflect on your boundaries and take action to apply them in real-life situations. Whether you're navigating family dynamics, work pressures, or personal relationships, this guide will direct you toward honoring your own needs while still maintaining the compassion and love you truly are.
Step 1: Identify Your Boundary Triggers
Think about past gatherings, holiday situations, or relationships that have left you feeling emotionally drained, disrespected, or misunderstood. These feelings are your invitations to heal something within yourself.
List the situations or people that trigger negative feelings for you:
Step 2: Choose Your Boundary
Now, focus on one specific situation or person you want to set a boundary with. Your goal is to create a healthy limit to protect your emotional well-being.
What boundary do you want to set for yourself?
Examples: "I will leave early if the conversation becomes hostile," or "I will ask for personal space if I feel overwhelmed."
My chosen boundary for this situation is:
Step 3: Practise How to Express Your Boundary
Setting a boundary often requires clear communication. In this section, write down what you would say to politely, but firmly, express your needs. Be specific and practise these words aloud. It might sound silly, but rehearsing can make a significant difference to our confidence and calm in the moment. Please remember, conflict requires two to participate and be ready to step away if needed.
How will you communicate this boundary with respect and love?
Example phrases:
"I need to take a break from this conversation to recharge."
"I respect your opinion, but I don’t feel comfortable discussing this right now."
"It’s been a long day; I need to leave now to care for myself."
What will you say?
Step 4: Reflect on Your Emotions
This can occur in two steps.
One - how do you feel as you rehearse speaking your boundaries? Notice and breathe into any tension in your body to release. You may like to revisit Navigating the Holiday Season to remind your Ego why it is important to step out of wanting to protect others from their emotions.
And Two - after applying your boundary, take a moment to reflect on how you felt. Were there any moments of discomfort? Did you feel empowered, proud, or perhaps guilty? Allow yourself to explore any emotions that came up.
How did it feel to set your boundary?
Did anything change in the interaction after setting your boundary?
Step 5: Process Your Experience
Journal to process your experience - reflecting will show you where you did well and where you want to grow in future boundary setting. Take care not to allow the ego to get caught up in the experience. There is no right or wrong, only opportunities for further growth so put self-criticism to rest.
You may like to share your story. Boundaries help us create healthier, more harmonious relationships, and by sharing our experiences, we can support one another.
Optional: Comment below to join the conversation - please leave names out!
What boundary did you set?
How did it impact your experience?
Bonus Tip: Creating Space for Growth
Remember, setting boundaries is a skill that takes practice. You might face resistance, and that's okay. Every time you keep your heart open and stand firm you are choosing self-respect and emotional health. Let this be your invitation to keep growing.
Keep Going!
You’ve completed the first step! To continue building strong boundaries, revisit this worksheet when new situations arise. Practice saying ‘no’ with love, asking for space, and honoring your needs with action. You deserve peace, respect, and to honour your boundaries as you move towards emotional freedom.
Feel free to share this worksheet with friends, family, or social media to inspire others to join the conversation and support change towards healthier relationships based on unconditional love.
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Thank you for your support, dear reader, and for sharing this journey to deeper awareness.
Blessed be
Michelle Cowles
Spiritual Healer, Energy Therapist
You can also find me at www.michellecowles.com
Disclaimer: The information on this page is general, lifestyle information and should not be used to diagnose or treat a health problem or disease. If this article raises mental health issues, please contact your General Practitioner, mental health worker, or Lifeline on 13 11 14 (Australia) OR find support by country at www.helpguide.org.
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How lovely to see a worksheet that isn’t onerous to do! Love it !xx