Uncovering Programs That Make us Anxious - Week 5

And they must make us anxious - anxiety shows us what we are not. When we can move past our resistance and examine old fears, we uncover the truth of who we really are.

Jun 07, 2025

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NOTE: this program is a supplement to traditional avenues, and it is never intended to replace medical support, diagnosis, or medications. See disclaimer below and always seek medical support if needed.

For the past few weeks we have been looking at how anxiety is a natural and normal response to stress and a red flag for unhealed trauma - whether ours or from the energies around us. I love how most of you (like me!) are managing stress with nature and quiet time to recalibrate.

Last week, in Week 4, I asked: What does Sovereignty mean to you personally, and what steps might you take to live more in alignment with your true, unmasked self?

I wonder what you came up with?

And what you decided to do about it?

Take a moment to share here if it feels right.

This question came with a warning that it is normal for our Ego to recoil at what the answers to these questions might involve. Today, let’s have a closer look at a range of objections, old beliefs, and the fears that lie beneath them. Keep an open mind and open heart and let’s dive in!

Rejection - It’s Real to the Ego

Being rejected by others is a serious concern for the Ego-self.

This part of us has built our identity on fear and separation because this part is of the physical world we entered. Of course we learnt it as children: it reflects what WAS.

Our Ego weaponises fear and anxiety to prevent us from stepping outside of the known and almost always prefers the ‘comfortably uncomfortable’ to any kind of change.

The unhealthy Ego in action. Image by mariel reiser

It’s not real!

What we believe, we create.

Change our beliefs, change our lives.

To help us do this, let’s examine some of the programs the Ego has learnt and is trying to maintain.

Egoic Programming

The beliefs we hold about ourselves, others, life and our place in it, creates our reality. This makes the Ego comfortable because it is known.

Reassure your Ego that it can can change and still offer us a working persona that is aligned with our Sovereignty. Our persona can be a reflection of the Divine unconditional love we are, rather than those examined in Week 4.

Let’s help the Ego change its perception.

Do you recognise any of these?

1. LIFE IS A STRUGGLE, or life is hard.

Life has been a struggle for the generations that came before, trying to find ways to survive, let alone get ahead, pushing emotions down and struggling to fit in to avoid persecution.

But this is changing! Have you noticed? Our newest generations are here to remind us that this is not who we are. We can see the significant number of children appearing on the autism spectrum as clear guidance that it is not in our Highest Good to be moulded into what we are not.

Remember our rule as energetic beings is ‘like attracts like’:

Where our focus goes, energy flows.

It’s a simple equation. What will you choose to focus on today?

2. MESSAGES OF ENSLAVEMENT - Work hard, ‘shoulder to the wheel, nose to the grindstone, stay on the treadmill’

These beliefs stem from historical trauma forged from ancient survival patterns of the earliest farmers to the manipulative machinations of the Industrial Revolution and humanity’s vast history of slavery. Used as fodder for other’s wealth or control, survival patterns became the norm. Slavery in the US (CNN) is an enlightening short read.

prison treadmill and slavery — Humans as a source of power have been manipulated for centuries and beyond. Image: Brixton Prison, Public Domain (L) Lightfoot/Getty (R)

The energy of enslavement sits in our Ancestral DNA, lodged by those who sought to harvest human suffering. We are being invited to put it down now and allow our Highest of High to guide us for our greatest good.

Use this intent to reclaim your power if it feels as if you have been ‘enslaved’ at any point:

I, [name], hereby reclaim my energetic power at every point connected to my source. I revoke and dissolve all contracts, vows, and agreements that compromise my sovereignty. I fully release all that is not in the good of my Highest of High, transmuting and returning it to Unconditional Love and command all my energetic fragments in every form be healed and restored to me in alignment with Christ Consciousness. My sacred geometry is now fully restored to 100% optimal.
And so it is.
Amen / Namaste / A’ho / Thank you.

3. DON’T QUESTION (MY) AUTHORITY

A rule we often learn in childhood is a ‘hanger on’ from the Victorian times of children being seen but not heard, voices squashed.

We are each unique and complete fragments of the energy of All That Is. No more. No less.

Do you feel as if you have given your power away? Reclaim it using the intent above.

4. FAILURE IS NOT AN OPTION and Don’t air your ‘dirty laundry’ in public.

We are not born believing in ‘failure’, competition, or know shame from our experiences. Young children will try repeatedly, innately show forgiveness for themselves and others. This is how all humans learn and grow from experience - whether, walking, talking, tying shoelaces, or learning how to participate in relationships. We learn in our Divine right timing.

If we are focusing on another’s ‘failures’ guaranteed our Ego is in action, trying to prop itself up and disguise our need to look at our own stories.

Every experience is an opportunity (I create or co-create) to learn, grow and/or evolve from in my Divine right timing.

5. OTHERS BEFORE SELF

“Be humble, thinking of others as better than yourselves.” Philippians 2:3-4

Sneaky, often biblical notions like this keep us from achieving our own greatness. Too exhausted to focus on our needs, our cup is drained until we have nothing left and become the ones who need support.

In effect we have taught others that we are less important than them.

What if… we make time for ourselves (and yes, I do understand how tricky this can feel at different stages in our lives). It doesn’t have to be large chunks of time, however, each of us needs time to ourselves to recalibrate, recuperate, perhaps to just sit still and enjoy the breeze.

Time inwards replenishes our energy, our access to our intuition, and our joy.
Allow others to have their experiences and learn to do for themselves and receive their life learnings.
Prioritising ourselves can teach us to ask for help and offer others the satisfaction of being the ‘givers’.
Prioritising our needs in a loving and healthy way, teaches others that it is okay for them to do the same - what a beautiful gift to hand the next generation or provoke the generation above us to consider?

Time out can be so simple. Image by Arseniy Kapran

6. TO BE SELFISH IS A SIN

What if this ancient notion of ‘sin’ in itself is a master stroke in limitation?

Energy is all and all is energy. Therefore God or whatever label we apply to All That Is, is part of us and we are part of it.

We are the only ones attaching judgment.

Why?

If we are each unconditional love, have we learnt compassion yet?

An aside: the belief in sin is one of the most deceptive energies once we leave the physical. Many of those who exist between planes - a space we can call purgatory - are there because they believe themselves to be unworthy of forgiveness. Let it go.

7. COMPETITION AND TALL POPPIES - People like us don’t do things like that, and, What will others think?

The Jones’s, neighbours, your families - why are they so concerned about your life? Or perhaps they are not??

When we and others focus outwards in judgment, it is a sure sign that Egos are running the show.

We are each unique, Divine fragments of All that Is, here to evolve. What others think about us is none of our business. Be kind to yourself and others, and know that other’s expectations are a reflection of them.

8. IF I CHANGE LITERALLY OR IDEOLOGICALLY, I WILL HAVE NO FRIENDS OR FAMILY

This is a BIG one. We can read this fear as If I [do/am/be/say this] others may not love me and I will be alone.

This is conditional love.

This fear is our Ego at its strongest.

I can guarantee we are each here to remember our core essence is unconditional love. We can continue to participate in the illusory role of separation and give in to our Ego, or we can choose to step beyond our fears and into our Divine being-ness.

If we can’t let ourselves BE how can those who would love us unconditionally as we are find us?
What would it mean if we can truly trust in the Divine season of our relationships?

JOURNAL your thoughts if this feels right.

What happens if we loosen our grip and trust?

Happily, these sayings / belief patterns are becoming less common with growing awareness, parenting that respects the child’s emotions, and adults who are finally willing to examine their own emotions. Thank goodness!

Self-Reflection

Each of the beliefs above are self-limiting in some way, undermining our ability to honour ourselves as Sovereign beings.

When we see our experiences as crossroad points, we realise we can step away from drama, our problems no longer feel insurmountable and anxiety lessens.

The Crossroad

Every experience will bring us to a crossroad.
Each intersection is another opportunity to choose what FEELS good and right.
When we default to what our Ego THINKS instead of what FEELS right, we are usually lead to further discomfort. This discomfort is the blessing, simply showing us what we are not and asking us to choose something better.
Repeat until we trust our guided path and release our need for control.

Journal Prompts

Take a some time to consider:

How might your current struggles, patterns, or ‘glass ceiling’ be linked to unhealed wounds or inherited beliefs from childhood or ancestral conditioning.
Are the beliefs or behaviors you’ve adopted truly yours, or were they formed as coping strategies in your early environment?
What would it mean to let them go?

If you would like to share your thoughts, I would love to hear from you.

Love is Divine, with Michelle Cowles

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