The Final Step Beyond Anxiety - Week 9
Steering your life from the NOW.
The Symptom We Call Anxiety - Welcome to Week 9
This week is a culmination of the past 8 weeks of the Beyond Anxiety program where we have examined anxiety as a symptom of something deeper; come to understand the Ego as a mask to our true, Divine selves; anxiety and the empath; programs of limitation; ancestral debris; and scarcity imprints.
This week, the final week of Beyond Anxiety, let us look at what we do when we buy into our ‘story’ and what we can do instead.
All Things for a Reason
How different would life look if we could just accept that in this moment all that has come before is no more relevant than the wake trailing behind a boat?
The Wake Does Not Drive the Boat
If you aren’t familiar with Alan Watt’s analogy, it goes something like this:
The boat is operated by you in this present moment. Right NOW. The wake is the effect from the forward motion being created in this moment. Consider – is it possible for the wake to create forward momentum?
We know it cannot.
Our past is no different.
In every moment we are making choices that will create a wake filled with the result of cause.
We can turn and look backwards long enough to see our wake and assess which direction we might want to head next. But it is no more relevant than that - unless we create an attachment. But to what are we attaching to? The ripples move outwards and disappear. It then becomes an attachment in our own mind to something that for a time, was.
Divine Timing and The Soul’s Plan
In the metaphysical we remember that our Divine life path is going to plan. Whether we are ‘on the right track’, or not, is irrelevant to our Plan because our events are always shifting and moving to line up with the path of least resistance. The course we set for ourselves before we came into the physical.
Struggle, angst, grief, guilt and regret are negatively driven emotions – and that is not to say we shouldn’t feel them. It is to say we shouldn’t live in them. And if you are familiar with my writing, you would know that I very, very rarely use the word ‘should’. This is because all is an invitation Dear Ones.
Every Soul is in Sacred Agreement
We can’t know the full details of why we agreed to hurt or be hurt by others.
I do know that there are no mistakes and that every soul we come into contact with is another Divine being with whom we hold agreement.
It may be to provoke a wound that either of us wishes to heal in this lifetime. It may be to make a latent strength know. It may be a reminder that we came in to remember to apply unconditional love.
I can hear the cries of, “But how can I forgive X for doing Y. It is unforgivable!” To be honest, it took me years to figure this one out. The barbs others were casting in my direction were a reflection of their trauma not mine. I could choose to continue to engage in their games of trauma and drama. Or I could move on, learning to stop diminishing my self-respect and forgiving what I attracted to myself.
Unconditional Love Sometimes Means Letting Go
And sometimes that unconditional love is loving someone so much we allow them to go their own way, trusting that if we are to meet again, reunited on the Divine path that is this lifetime – we will.
As each of us wakes up to this glorious dance of the spiritual being in a physical body for a short time we remember that we don’t all come to this awareness of our infinite selves as lovers at the same time. Some still need to throw their toddler tantrums, blame others for everything they have chosen for their lifetime – including our interactions with them, whatever they may be - or perhaps see the world as a dark, terrible place even though the sun shines and we can choose to let our hearts sing.
Their path is not ours and let them go we must. Anything less is going to drag our energetic self downwards from joy. In this joyful place we each send love outwards continuing to heal all that is with our radiant being-ness. The alternative is becoming swamped in the quagmire of misery. The energetic debris of what was.
The Gift of Freewill
How blessed are we that we can choose.
If you feel you are ready to let go of what has come before, to release the self-imposed limitations you have accepted along the way, you may like the following meditation.
Letting Go of What Was: a Meditation
There comes a point on the healing path when we realise we are not our history, that it is merely a story or stage play, and that we no longer need to live our lives based on what was. While letting go does not refer to the memories, or the people, or even the lessons it does mean taking charge to release the
You know that I too, ebb and flow in my awareness at stages, and so it was that I was gifted this little reminder last week, The Biggest Missing Piece, about how to process the world’s suffering. I hope it offers you solace and hope. I also admit, when I first met Abraham-Hicks, I was a little confused – if the clip raises questions for you as it did me, I’d love to discuss them with you! Please leave a comment.
What is Anxiety, Really?
And so Dear Ones, what to do about this anxiety that so many are coming to accept as fundamentally simply a modern dis-ease we must learn to live with?
It is not us.
It is…
a collective memory,
a culmination of past experience we need to let go of (when we are ready)
a choosing to hold onto expectations – ours or others – about how we should live our lives
pressure from family or generational atom to think / behave / be a certain way
a reminder to manage our energy as empaths
a label and a story we maintain
and a feeling our Highest of High uses to show us our Ego is holding onto what is NOT us so tightly it is literally making us uncomfortable.
Feelings Are Meant to be Felt
Remember: feelings are meant to be felt, not resisted. Resistance forces the unprocessed feeling deeper into our body, waiting for a trigger to remind us of what we still need to work on. When we feel, breathe, acknowledge, take the lesson/action, and release, the feeling is no longer required.
If you need support to do this, see your mental health provider.
So here’s the thing:
You Chose This Life
This is the life you so dearly waited for, planned for – an opportunity to feel feelings in a physical body, to create experiences, connections, to help earth, to contribute to Mass Consciousness in a better way than we have done previously.
Our gift? Freewill.
We get to choose how we see the world and everything in it.
We get to choose our perspective.
And that perspective becomes the foundation, driving our next experience.
Ways to Consolidate New Ways of Being
In conclusion of 9 weeks of recognising and restoring balance to feelings of anxiety, here are a few strategies we can use to anchor a better way of being:
Breathe
Breathe and allow all feelings without attachment. They are only feelings showing us what we are and are not aligned with. Take the message and move on.
Process
With or without support, depending on your unique situation. If you need medical or professional support, find it - there is no judgment here. Journal, talk, walk in nature, meditate, swim. Find a way that works for you.
Hold Gratitude
Find small things to be grateful for every day. Begin to remind yourself of the beautiful reasons you chose this life. The more we focus on blessings, the more blessings follow.
Grounding
Sometimes we need to retreat. To put our heads under the blankets and simply retreat. And that is okay. One of the surest ways to reset, however, is not indoors. Mother Nature awaits us when we are ready, and Her vibration IS healing. Walking preferably with shoes off, sitting, lying, or with hands in the soil as we garden all create the connection we need to allow energy to be transmuted.
All of Life is a Play
Call forth your stage with your Ego front and centre. Remind it of its role, lighten up, find ways to have fun and remember your experience is defined by your focus in this very moment - your NOW.
Change
By our very nature, we are creatures of change. It is only a fearful Ego that anchors us as if we were trees, resisting the thought of moving into new spaces and new ways of being. Change is the one thing we can guarantee and how we choose to respond to our circumstances is up to us.
Love Yourself
And then love yourself some more. You are a Divine being having this physical experience by design. You will come to your realisations and take the steps that align you closer with your purpose at exactly the right moment.
IMPORTANT
Once again, sometimes we reach a point where we require medication or mental health support. Energy therapy does not prescribe or diagnose Always deal with the physical first and then when you are ready, come to understand the deeper meaning of your symptoms.
Endings and Beginnings
As we reach the end of these 9 weeks, may we remember our deep knowing that anxiety is not our identity, rather it is a signal and not a sentence. No one is broken, and we are never really lost. Each of us is a powerful, conscious creator walking a sacred path, perfectly designed for our individual soul’s evolution.
Let this final week be a turning point where the story of your past no longer dictates your future, and where the wake behind you becomes the quiet reminder that you are always free to choose your next step, with grace, presence, and love.
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Blessed be
Michelle Cowles
Spiritual Healer/Teacher/Learner
Copyright Michelle Cowles 2025
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