Life's Speed Bumps

Sometimes we miss the message - and we can still trust we will be re-directed. Life is beautiful, even in the detours if we care to look.

Alignment

When we are aligned with what is truly right for us – our integrity, values, gifts and talents – life flows. That event that interrupts your day-to-day? Look at it a little closer. We are constantly guided, loved, and supported by our guides and Higher Self. A complete guidance system. While we hold the gift of freewill, it can take us down the wrong path. Our beliefs that we need* to ‘help’ others at a cost to ourselves, that we need to ‘save’ anyone, that we need to ‘protect’ others from their emotions, that we are the only ones who can help in any given situation .

Nope. All interference from our Ego.

Wrong turns or beautiful re-directions. Image by Michelle Cowles on Canva

We each have our own Divine blueprint in each and every lifetime we live. We choose our parents, a framework for our experiences, the people we will share this lifetime with, the joy we wish to experience and the wounds we wish to explore and heal - all true 99% of the time. And we each have our own freewill - the opportunity to make the most from every experience we have, to determine how we will spend our time in this physical body.

Experiences as Opportunities

Life continues to give us opportunities to redirect our journey when we are travelling down the wrong path. Think of a difficult time when one thing after the other seemed to go wrong. It may be a series of jobs that are not congruent with our integrity or values; friendship that presents relentless challenges or works predominantly in one person’s favour; a risky recreational activity that distracts our thoughts and inner voice; or even bouts of illness.

When the Negative is Positive

We may notice a pattern of negative relationships whether between ourselves and the greater community (workplace, road users, service providers), our closer networks (partner, family, friends) or with ourselves (the activities we choose, our health and whether we listen to our inner voice). Negative relationships in any of these areas can be labeled as life being unfair. Why us? How dare the distracted driver cut into our lane? Why do people always take advantage of our generosity? We're always too busy to to do something fun or relaxing for ourselves. Any of these events can be viewed as life being unfair or others abusing our goodwill, but what if these are speed bumps given to slow us down and create opportunities be make better choices?

Synchronicity - it isn’t Random

Happily, life also gives us road signs or clues that we are headed in the right direction. Consider that unexpected but timely meeting with someone who introduces us to others who can help us on our journey, repeated opportunities to notice the career we are destined for, a chance meeting with a like soul who helps us realise we deserve better. These are confirming signs that we are on the right path and that our life is bigger than ourselves. Life flows, actions transition into positive reactions and we move from one goal to the next with purpose and ease.

Realign to Purpose

We recognise that we need to make better choices but how do we reorient ourselves? There are some things we can do to change our subconscious programming and create the life we deserve:

See yourself succeeding – energy goes where it is directed. Create a specific mental picture of yourself being successful. Visualise it every day.

Cancel negatives – can’t, won’t don’t. Whenever a negative comes to mind immediately replace it with your mental image of yourself succeeding. Say ‘I can, I will, I do!’ Sometimes reprogramming simply requires consistent insistence, refocusing repeatedly on what you do want.

‘Need’*, ‘should’, ‘must’. These words are all indicative of a limiting program. Replace with ‘I choose’, because whether you realise it or not, you are always making a choice. That is freewill. Yes, you might have many sound reasons for making a choice, so acknowledge it for what it is, and reclaim your energetic power.

Erase obstacles. When the obstacles seem fearful and overwhelming, imagine them as a balloon and ‘pop!’ to deflate. Remember that fear and worry are nothing more tangible than hot air and they offer nothing positive in return.

Recognise Egoic limitations and Secondary gains. Sometimes the obstacle is us. When we take time to examine the foundation of our actions, we recognise that the cost of ‘holding on’ just isn’t worth it.

Don’t be awestruck by others – Remember, others are our mirror. Those admirable qualities? You only recognise them because they are in you too. You are surrounded by examples you can use to develop your success. Emulate the strength you see in others whether someone in your community or someone you admire but only know through media.

Trust in yourself. Not sure what your strengths are? Write a list of 10 good qualities about you that you want others to admire. Treat this list as 10 reasons for confident inner love. Ask someone you trust to help if needed. How can others love your good qualities if you don’t?

See yourself as you wish others to perceive you. You emit energy that cues and attracts others. Enthusiasm, an upright posture and thoughtful words convey a very different impression than negativity, slouching and mumbled words. You choose.

Take action! Get up, get out and take steps to create the future you deserve. Action needs action – take a step on the foot of the mountain and keep going. Loosen your grip and trust that your life will move in the direction it should when you allow yourself to move beyond fear and doubt.

Look for road signs – the ‘coincidences’ that show you on going in the right direction are your Divine Guidance - act on them.

Detours

So what happens if we lose our way? We travel down that highway called life and find that everything feels unfair and too difficult. We have a choice to make. We can stand on the side of the road and kick our tyres, stalled, blaming others (even if we truly believe they are to blame) – and make absolutely no progress towards our goals. Or we can choose to continue. Keep moving forward, go back to an earlier exit, re-read the road signs, regain our bearings and continue on.

Bless and Release Old Patterns

Our lives are a reflection of our beliefs about the world. We accept patterns as children and spend our lives creating life experiences that confirm our beliefs. Some of these patterns are negative, patterns that do not serve you well. If your pattern is 'life is difficult', self-sabotage is an issue, or you need support to transform ‘I can’t’ to ‘I can’, use the Inner Child Meditation.

Our inner child is closely connected to our Divine Self and can be one of our greatest supports.

Life is beautiful, even in the detours if we care to look for the beauty.

Blessings

Michelle x

Michelle Cowles

Spiritual Healer

Disclaimer: The information on this page is general, lifestyle information and should not be used to diagnose or treat a health problem or disease. This information is never a substitute for professional health care advice. Any information you find on this page or on external sites which are linked to on this page should be verified with your professional health care provider.