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Michelle Cowles's avatar

Thanks for your comment Jean, it is such an interesting discussion and you raise insightful points. I think we all do our best at any given time - dependent on many factors. In my mind, a boundary is always a test of unconditional love and resistance is often deeply connected to secondary gains - some of which we may prefer to hold onto even when we are aware of that gain. Most of all, I am given that loving and forgiving ourselves for everything is the ultimate key - and the author is still working on this too. Much love M x

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J P Cowles's avatar

Traditionally we are not taught or counselled in how to 'choose' to allow the generational pain to end with us and limit our individual pain's impact onto others. Forgiveness and patience are virtues that benefit ourselves and others in this process, but can be viewed as weaknesses to be taken advantage of, if not coupled with healthy boundaries. What happens if we do not enforce our boundaries? What happens if we do enforce our boundaries? What is the best way to enforce our boundaries? The best I can figure is we do it with the best of intentions, and at some point, we need to let the chips fall where they will.

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