!ANGER! Is this for you?
I asked what the world needed to know and was shown transform ANGER. Anger can be a ‘comfortably uncomfortable’ known that allows us to justify blaming others. It's time to take control.
Rage, anger’s big brother, has stormed down many ancestral lines, mine included, obliterating connection and shadowing light for centuries. That ability to move from 0-10 in an instant? I know it. And I know it can be healed. It is an intimidating force covering intense pain and fear and, like any unhealed emotion, it comes to our attention for healing.
If feeling or observing anger causes you to become triggered into some other heightened emotion or behaviour, consider the healing strategies below.
We are making changes, individually and collectively, as one-by-one we find courage to delve beyond the illusion and ask anger what its bluster is covering. Unmasked we usually find a childlike form whose experience has caused it to forget that it is the embodiment of love and can choose not to take on another’s trauma.
Children often adopt their parents’ strategies, default into ancestral patterns, or even what was modelled many lifetimes ago. As adults, we can help this younger self to see the light they brought into the world and to heal their emotional pain. This then releases us from our younger triggers and creates space to choose a healthier strategy when presented with experiences of non-love.
The Ego does not know of existence beyond itself and this lifetime. It is the part that does not leave the physical to return with your Divine essence, the infinite being you are. And so it lives in fear, trying to keep you in a fear based state, the ‘safe’ and the known. It is caught up in the low vibration miasma that surrounds Earth and her sleeping children.
Our Ego is the part that encourages us to blame others rather than take responsibility for the experiences we co-create. It pushes the heart and gut intelligences to the side and shouts, ‘Look at me! Look how I have suffered. See what you have done to me! Life is hard and unfair.’ The Ego wants us to play the victim role because change is not required here. We have the script and a ‘comfortably uncomfortable’ known that allows us to blame others, create false pride, justify criticism and judgment, and to resent others.
When we lift our sights upwards and remember our plan for this lifetime, we remember that we will have certain experiences to remind us of our wounds to heal, contracts to complete, and strengths to recover or build.
This is non-negotiable. We have made a contract with every person we interact with - sometimes for our benefit, sometimes for theirs, and sometimes for both of us. We do not get to Egoically re-write our Divine blueprint from the physical plane. Our only true control as humans is to control the way we respond to our Earthly experiences. We can see them as a victim might - out of our control, life playing out mercilessly, or we can stand in our true knowing and take the reins.
As beings with Freewill we can choose (self-) forgiveness, focus on our own path, create healthy boundaries, and make change where it is needed. This stance invites us to look at what is not working in our lives rather than continuing the cycle of anger/fear/non-change. Sure, it takes a certain amount of courage, but not choosing to examine ourselves is accepting the present status quo. And that is a choice too.
One insight that always helps me to step out of other’s stories is to remember that each and every one of us has a Divine plan and is being guided by experiences to make choices that will (quickly or eventually) align us with our true purpose. There is no point raging or resenting another’s behaviour.
Heal Anger / Rage
If something matters to you deeply and you feel angry about a specific situation, take action. Do something about it!
Transform anger into action with passion and create positive change.
Search your heart for injustice that you have suffered and let it go.
Be willing to learn and grow from injustices and discord.
Release blame and turn within to find the truth.
Divine wisdom and unconditional love is within each of us as a the physical manifestation of a fragment of Source that we are. Each of us is moving along our guided trajectory in our Divine Right Timing.
Identify and Acknowledge
Take a deep breath to calm and open yourself.
Imagine anger like a bull, enraged and blindly lashing out.
See it as separate from yourself and notice how your anger hurts others.
Ask the bull, ‘What are you most angry about?’
Listen. If you are given, ‘I don’t know,’ agree and say, ‘I know you don’t know, but if you did know, what are you most angry about?’
Don’t spend time analysing this, allow the bull to respond. You will FEEL the truth in the answer.
Acknowledge the pain, and the lesson you are being invited to learn.
Take Action
Once the message is received identify the action required. You may need to:
literally create change or let go of a belief, something, or someone that no longer serves your Highest Good.
create a boundary because you are deserving of having personal boundaries.
remember what is yours and what is not - we each have our own ‘work’ to do.
learn to say ‘no’.
choose not to participate in anger, hate, blame, judgment…
learn to respect that each are having the experience they need and ‘fixing’ is not required - interfering by ‘helping’ often makes our Higher Selves work harder to bring a lesson.
Release
Commit to taking action and release. That is all that is needed. The uncomfortable emotions only served to draw your attention to imbalance.
Notice how much anger fills your body. Imagine anger as the colour red, filling your body from the feet up. Observe the red like a thermometer - how much anger have you held on to?
Now breathe deeply and ground yourself by standing with bare feet on the earth (or imagine it if this is not possible).
Then imagine a beautiful blue light flowing like a waterfall in through the top of your head, cooling and dissolving anger with love and compassion as it flows through your body, out of your feet, and into Mother Earth.
Finish with three deep breaths, breathing out any residue energy and resetting your vibration to resonate with Christ Consciousness/All that Is.
Again, imagine you are looking at the red level within yourself. If it has reduced, well done! Repeat the exercise until you have released the red. **Consider seeing an energy healer and/or psychologist if you need support to do this.
Soothe and Maintain
I use the Hawaiian prayer Ho’opo ono ono to dissolve irritation and remember I am one with the object of my attention:
I am sorry Please forgive me I love you Thank you
What we offer up to the other, we also offer to ourselves.
Energy has no division. We are one with all.
Onwards
But what of the anger ‘out there’?
There is no need to get angry with the distracted or angry driver, for example, and becoming another angry driver makes no sense. Noticing others’ journey is an opportunity to step out of judgment and into acceptance for our Divine learnings.
Hold compassion and unconditional love for those who are moving along their trajectory and who will learn in their Divine Right Timing. If you can’t do this as yet, choose not to watch the news or participate in drama.
What we focus on we create.
Stay in your lane and heal any anger that rises to the surface - that is your gift to yourself and to Mother Earth.
Blessings
Michelle x
Michelle Cowles
Spiritual Leader/Teacher/Learner
Copyright Michelle Cowles 2024
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